Wednesday, July 11, 2007

A Little Spat With Brainball

Oh dear. Brainball and I had a little spat. Nobody got hurt, but it shook me up a bit.



By nature, I'm more of a people-cat than a cat-cat, though for the most part I get along fine with my siblings at home. I have a soft spot for MaoMao -- we like to nose-kiss, and sometimes we play chase.

But Brainball and I are pretty distant. We tolerate each other, but usually we stay out of each other's way. Part of this may lie in our very different purr-sonalities: I'm a girly-girl, feminine kitty, and Brainball is a tough, no-nonsense Alpha Cat.



And unfortunately, we misunderstand each other sometimes. Brainball is almost twice as big as I am, so she makes me nervous, and when I act nervous, she misreads me and thinks I'm challenging her for the Alpha Cat position (when I'm not at all inclined to do that). Maybe I confuse her, too, because even though she's the biggest cat here, she's not the eldest. I am.

Mom and Dad keep boxes around the house for us Ballicai to play with, and there's a box in the kitchen which is Brainball's. She scratches on it all the time and lets MaoMao and Dorydoo scratch on it, too. But she gets kind of upset when I scratch on it.

I scratched on it this morning only to find her looking at me like, "Watch yourself." I stopped scratching. She gave me a level stare which meant, "Please don't do that again, Marilyn." Then she walked away.

Well, I got nervous and followed her to the living room (Why do I sometimes follow Brainball when she's making me nervous? I have no idea!), and when she jumped on the chair and turned to face me, she hissed.

Her hissing made me even more nervous (Brainball is really, really big after all!), and before I knew what I was doing, I acted out of defensive aggression and swatted at her. EEK! Why did I do that? *sigh*. I know she doesn't want to hurt me -- Brainball is a very benevolent Alpha Cat.

But when I swatted at her, I made her pretty mad, and she started trying to cuff me. Before either of us could get carried away, Mom clapped her hands loudly and said "Break it up," and we broke it up: we both defer to Mom. Mom's the Alpha-Alpha.

Hopefully Brainball and I won't have another spat for a while. Our spats really are infrequent, thank goodness! But when they happen, they make me fuzz up. So to calm down, I snuggled up on my purr pad and dreamed of my darling Mickeybear -- he's a big kitty, too, but he never, ever makes me nervous -- I always feel so safe with him.

16 comments:

Ariel said...

Hi Marilyn,

I'm so sorry you and Brainball had a spat.Yet I know you two are very sweet and you'll make up.I'm an only kitty so there's no one to fight with.Yet it does get lonely sometimes
that's why I'm glad when Mao visits me.I'm sending you a big(HUG)..Ariel

Gretchen said...

Brainball looks very scary in this picture. I'm sorry you had to get all fluffed up. My neves twitch just thinking about your little spat. I can knock the heck out of the Fluffheads and they can't do anything back. Although, I'm not a meanycat. I only swatted Mike once.
I hope you get settled down soon...
Hugs, my friend.

Ali & Fiona said...

Oh Marilyn, we fight ALL the time, believe it or not Fifi thinks she is the alphacat. I have to hold her down because she bites my neck ALL the time! It is normal to have a fued once in a while.

Ariel said...

Hi Marilyn,
Me Again I picked you for a 5 things Meme.Please go to my blog to see.

Donny and Marie and Casey said...

Wow, Marilyn...I had NO idea you were the eldest kitty! I feel for you, being the eldest but not the Alpha cat. I'm not always sure whose the Alpha in our house....

~Casey

Poor Marilyn!! I hope you are feeling better...I know sensei would defend you in a heartbeat...I would do that for my pretty Cloud.

~Donny

Marilyn, would you like me to cuff Brainball for you?

~Marie the Defender

momsbusy said...

hi marilyn! kimiko and i get into little spats once in awhile too. cept i usually start them. i am a little devil sumtimes. mommees has to tell us to be nice too.

yuki

小芥 michico said...

I hope you will have good result at last~!

Pablo said...

Oh dear. Sorry to hear about your fight with Brainball. I don't think I could ever live with other cats... I'm just too fighty.

Jeter and Mickey said...

Marilyn,
I think there's a full moon this week ... I had a problem with Whitey and you had a problem with Brainball ... it doesn't usually happen.
Oh well ... it's over now and we can start all over with our siblings!
One thing I know for certain ... we will never have a spat!
Your--Mick

Karen Jo said...

Oh, I am so sorry that you had a spat with Brainball. It must be confusing that Brainball lets Mao Mao and Dorydoo scratch on her box, but objects to you doing it. I think it's kind of natural to swipe at a kitty who is hissing at you. I hope you and Brainball have made up now.

Ramses said...

Sorry to hear you've had a bit of a grump with your sister... Hope all is well now! :)

PS: I've tagged you for a meme, hope you enjoy it! :)

Bounce, Lucy and Trixie said...

Don't worry about it Marilyn, all brothers and sisters have spats. I know WE do! Sometimes Trixie attacks Bounce,sometimes Lucy and Trixie swat at each other and other times Bounce psycho-stares at Lucy which really upsets her. But then we're all friends again.

Daisy said...

Sorry you had a big misunderstanding with Brainball. My Mommie does that thing too where she claps and says "Break it up" in her loud voice.

Jeter and Mickey said...

Marilyn,
Karen Jo wrote a limmerick about me today ...
Your--Mick

Name: Mr. Hendrix said...

Oh goodness, I hope you nuzzled and made up. I'm sorry you got your feelings hurt and sorry Brainball got upset. Maybe Mickey is right and it is the moon, on my "travels" in the kitty blogosphere, it appears many siblings are scrapping out of the blue...

Miss Peach>(^,^) said...

Oh sister dear {{{{{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}}}}how scary for you. Sometimes we stare trouble right straight into it's eye and feel really brave, sometimes it doesn't work:)
I think Brainball really is a bit jelous of your great talent for poetry and your love for Mick. Does she have a mancat?
Maybe I can come and snuggle with you a bit today...till dinner anyway:)
Purrrrs your sister Peachy